Gay title right? Well it's a new Green Day song, and it felt inspirational at the moment, so.....don't worry, the actual body of the post is even worse, but I recently did some soul searching and am attempting to come up with some finite conclusions.
I'm trying to figure out a few things about relationships, compatibility, friendship, and all of those age old meanings for the way people interact with each other, particularly those of the opposite sex....(or I suppose the same sex, if that's your thing.) There are people on this world capable of absolutely being in love with someone else, and receiving that same love in return. The "ideal" group. Good for them. They seem to be few and far between, but if you have that, hang on to it. Don't fuck it up, no matter what you do, because you'll regret it.
There are hopeless fools who wander the Earth looking for the perfect person, only to settle and become too stubborn as time goes by to make a change. There are people who have been in love, and somehow blew it, and are now stuck in limbo, maybe never to return to what they had before. What's that saying? "It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all..." I'm not sure I believe that. It's kind of like a tease from which you generally have nobody to blame but yourself. There are people on the other end of the spectrum, who feel they have the perfect life, the perfect mate, and they get cheated on or they wind up not loving them as much as was thought.
Out of the above, aside from the couple madly in love who wind up together for 70 years, it's about how brave one is about their situation. They can settle, be satisfied with their life, and just go on, being halfway miserable for the rest of their life. It's the easy play, ya know? It's the safe way out. I'm starting to think that may be the chicken-shit way to do things. The life that these people have, though it may not be complete happiness, it's at least a routine. It's comfort. For some people that's ok. Some people get so hurt that they give up. Maybe they wait for something to happen, and it never does, and they never have the life they want to have.
I think it's a brave thing to be one of the people in the above paragraph and do something about it. Now. Make a change. Do what you have to do to be happy. If it's not with the person you're currently with, fucking change it man....make the bold move. Do what you need to do to find complete happiness. Peace. You only have one life. Think about that for a minute....REALLY think about that....how many years do you want to be miserable when happiness is out there for you somewhere. Just have the balls to go get it. I know it's easier said than done, but like I said, you have one lifetime, don't waste years of it being unhappy.
Same thing with your job, or your friends, or your lifestyle in general. Have the intestinal fortitude to change the things you don't like in your life. There are better things out there for you. Better people. Just remember your family. They're the constant. Be good to your family. If you have a bad family situation, that's different...and I'm not talking about you and your brother had a scuffle on Thanksgiving 4 years ago, I mean things like abuse, etc. Clearly a different situation. For those lucky enough to be loved by your family, don't let that go for anything. If you have kids...be good to them. Even if you don't have the nuts to make changes to relationships or careers or friends, your kids will always be there for you if you show them the love that a parent should.
So what are you waiting for?
"Oh Love, Oh love
Won't you rain on me tonight
Oh life, Oh life
Please don't pass me by
Don't stop, Don't stop
Don't stop when the red lights flash
Oh ride
Free ride
Won't you take me close to you
Far away, far away
waste away tonight
I'm wearing my heart on a noose."
-Billy Jo Armstrong
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