My sister Trid just had her first child...my first nephew. She gave birth naturally, accidentally. Trid is the best person I know at taking things in stride and just laughing it off...even if she's telling a story about how pissed off she was, she's definitely the happiest of the 4 McRoberts siblings. Being a new mom is not just an easy, everyday thing, but you'd think it was watching and listening to my sister. Nothing bothers her. The doctors fucked up her epidural, and instead of bitching about how much it hurt every second, or suing the hospital, she turns it into a funny story. That's what I love about my sister. Just like my younger sister Sissa, Trid is a natural mom. You'd think she was doing it all her life. I'm amazed by that, I really am, and I'm so proud of her.
Regarding the birth of my first nephew, I couldn't be happier that he's here. I have a son, and there's NOTHING better than that for a guy, I mean let's face it, but to now also have a nephew? I'm a lucky guy. Much like my first born son, he is a handsome dude. Trid even said that she thinks his face reminds her of Vinny Jr.'s when he was first born. I couldn't believe how incredibly happy I was when he arrived. When my other sister's daughter was born, she came very soon after my son, and I think that prevented me from enjoying her as much as I could have when she was first born. Don't take that the wrong way...it's just that I had a 4 week old son at home myself and had to focus on him. My oldest son is 3 now, along with my niece, so when my new nephew was born, I had/have a little more time to enjoy the little dude. It's great now how they get along. There is nothing better than watching them play together and hug each other when it's time to say goodbye. Maybe I couldn't enjoy her as much as an infant...but we're making up for it now in a big way.
I'm thankful to be so close to my siblings. I know that in the future, when we lose those closest to us, we'll have each other, and now we'll have the kids too. The way I figure it, part 1 of life is birth to adulthood, in it's broadest form. Part 2 is discovering who you are, partying, being with your friends, having fun, defining who you are and what you'll do for work. Part 3 is starting families and expanding your extended family. We'll worry about parts 4 and 5 in the future. For now, "Hello part 3 of life, how are you today? I think I'll grab you by the horns and fuck shit up."
I'm so happy to be where I am in my life. The last couple years have literally tried to destroy me. The world is definitely conspiring to send me over the edge, but I'm just not going to let it. I'm so happy that my family is expanding. Part 3 of life is a good part of this trip through my existence, regardless of the bad things that have happened to me. I could have easily mailed it in and gone into hiding and grown a really long beard and just live off the government and write a blog, waiting to get "discovered," which of course would never happen. I could have enjoyed my kids and basically have given a big, "Fuck You!" to everyone and everything else...but I chose not to. Sure I've bitched from time to time, but every time has been justified.
Regardless of all that, my family and my close friends have kept me afloat...especially my kids. My niece is such a big part of my life, and she didn't exist 4 years ago. That's so cool to think about. My new nephew...my first nephew, being born a couple weeks ago has reminded me why life is so great. The world could fall apart around me, and the simple fact that I have so much love for my kids, parents, siblings, and now my niece and brand new nephew, makes nothing else matter.
I wonder what life will be like when our kids are grown, but I know that nothing could tear the bond I have with my brother and two sisters. To think that our kids will grow up and see the bond that we have and the love we all have for each other is a great thought, even when the rest of my world always seems to be falling apart.
I love you Trid, thanks for reminding me what is so important in my life. Bonus thank you points for going through a miserably painful child-birth. It will be a fun story to tell my nephew one day, when he's playing with his cousins or we're around the Thanksgiving table. Parts 4 and 5 of life don't seem so bleak....hell, maybe they'll even be great!
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